A few lessons from Tim Ferriss' Tribe of Mentors

A few lessons from Tim Ferriss' Tribe of Mentors Happy New Year's Eve!!

I always find this time of year so interesting.

We shift from being present with family and friends to focusing more on ourselves.

Reflection.

Hope.

Realignment.

We reset.

We look at what's working and what's not and update or upgrade our goals and habits.

Even though we have the power to create this reset or clean slate any time of the year - it seems easier now.

And for me, reading has played a huge role in getting even more focused and more clear on what habits and actions I want to prioritize in 2018 (not to mention the systems to support them ;).

So, I thought I'd share what I've learned from Tim Ferriss' Tribe of Mentors.

One caveat though... Tribe of Mentors is so packed full of lessons (600 pages!) that I'm pretty sure I'll be learning from it for the rest of my life.

There's just no way to summarize the lessons of the book since it's already a gigantic summary of lessons.

(In case you haven't heard of it, Tim Ferriss asked 100+ highly successful people 11 questions and Tribe of Mentors is a collection of the best of the best responses).

So I'll share a few things from the first few pages of Tribe of Mentors that have significantly changed the way I understand people, life, and/or Self.

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1. Everything is a practice

Something that is deeply implicit in so much of what I'm learning right now is that everything is a practice and so much of the wisdom and advice in Tribe of Mentors is exactly that.

Not things you just learn once but things you learn and apply over and over and over again.

Whether it's a writing practice, a meditation practice, or a fitness practice - anything that needs to be consistently done in the present to positively impact the future requires a practice (aka system).

The significant shit for me here is the approach. Instead of seeing these as ongoing to-do's to be tackled and completed - considering them as a practice makes it more fluid and allows more room for the practice to evolve and change with me.

Putting a practice in place feels kind of like adding a component to who I am - not just what I do.

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2. Everyone struggles

We tend to think that other people just don't have our challenges or obstacles or maybe even that they're better than us somehow.

But, the truth is that people succeed despite their challenges and obstacles.

Tim wrote about it in Tools of Titans as well and I'll share a blurb here:

"The superheros you have in your mind (idols, icons, elite athletes, billionaires, etc.) are nearly all walking flaws who've maximized one or two strengths. Humans are imperfect creatures. You don't 'succeed' because have no weaknesses; you succeed because you find your unique strengths and focus on developing habits around them... Everyone is fighting a battle [and has fought battles] you know nothing about. The heroes in this book are no different. Everyone struggles."

We aren't alone and remembering that, I think, allows us to not only be compassionate to others but to give ourselves a break too.

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3. It's ok to say No.

I'm not sure where the idea that we have to say yes to everything comes from but, especially now, there are so many competing demands on our time.

Now more than ever, we have to say No to some things in order to say Yes to our priorities.

And this is new for me.

In fact, I've only gotten good at boundaries over past few years and saying No has been a big part of that.

Check out this Adulting with Ebonie podcast episode where her and I chat about boundaries.

One thing I loved from Tribe of Mentors was something that Kyle Maynard shared.

"My biggest shift came after listening to a successful CEO talk about his philosophy for hiring people. When his company grew and he ran out of time to interview people himself, he had his employees rate new candidates on a 1-10 scale. The only stipulation is that they couldn't choose 7. It immediately dawned on me how many invitations I was receiving that I would rate as a 7 - speeches, weddings, coffees, even dates. If I thought something was a 7, there was a good chance I felt obligated to do it. But if I have to decide between a 6 or an 8, it's a lot easier to quickly determine whether or not I should even consider it."

How many "6" things are crowding out things that are an 8, 9 or even a 10 in your life?

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4. Busy is a choice

Debbie Millman's quote from the book is "Busy is a decision."

This is a foundational philosophy in my work but I still need reminding sometimes.

I find myself talking about how busy I am to my friends or family and it really is just another way of saying that the things I'm spending my time on are my priority.

And that's ok. As long as I'm happy with what I'm spending my time on.

But, if I'm honest, there are some time leaks in my life that I'm working to shift away from and some values that I have that aren't represented in the way I spend time.

A lot of the time, I prioritize things by default and I want to change that.

This quote reminded me to take a look at where my time is going and put practices (habits, systems) in place to make sure that I make time for the things I really want and value.

Do you default to "I'm so busy" when people ask you how you are?

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I mean, these few items barely scratch the surface but they're among the things that highly resonated with me in this very moment.

Since you and I have a few things in common - I thought they might resonate with you too.

If it's already 2018 where you are, I hope you've kicked off the New Year filled with gratitude and energy for what's to come.

If you're celebrating tonight, I hope you get to ring in the New Year with some of your favorite people.

SO excited to see what 2018 has in store for us